What NOT to tell someone who is suffering? – Job 5:1-27

Good morning, church! Hope you’re well. If you’ve been tracking with us,byou’d be aware that we’re going through a series titled God’s blessing in suffering from the book of Job.

And I’m aware that for many of us this seems like an unusual title. Because we don’t normally use blessing and suffering in the same sentence. If we walked up to anyone on the street and asked them what they thought was the opposite of the word “blessing”, they’d tell you that it’s “suffering”.

Blessing and suffering are always treated as opposites. They don’t go together. So why are we saying “God’s blessing in suffering”? It’s because everything that God does has a purpose behind it. Including seasons of unbearable, prolonged suffering – even that – as hard as it is for us to believe – has God’s purpose behind it. So as a church we have embarked on a journey of spotting God’s blessing in suffering as we study the book of Job.

And it’s possible that some of us are looking at this series and wondering if this is actually relevant for us right now. Maybe we feel that a series on salvation or holiness or stewardship would be more relevant because we’re not going through a season of suffering right now. Well, let me tell you this, the thing about suffering is that it often doesn’t come to us with a prior booking. It’s usually unexpected!

I’m not trying to scare us this morning but I’m just stating a fact that if we don’t have a biblical framework to think through suffering, we’ll find ourselves hopeless, stuck, not knowing what to do as we come face to face with that unexpected medical report or an unexpected job loss or unexpected loss of relationship or loss of a loved one.

Suffering is a certainty in a believer’s life which is why James can tell us “count it all joy my brothers when (not if) you meet trials of various kinds”. The assumption is that suffering is a reality we can’t run away from.

And it’s not just limited to our own lives. All of us know someone or the other who is going through suffering. And if we’re able to get the right understanding of suffering, we’ll be in a better position to be more sensitive and helpful toward others as they deal with suffering. 

But in order to do that, we have to admit that there’s a lot of unlearning that needs to take place. And so I hope that all of us are approaching this series in this manner – where we’re praying and asking God to help us grow in our understanding & response to suffering. Let that be our prayer – and I think that’s a perfect place for us to begin our time this morning. So would you join me in prayer?

(Pray)

It had been the longest, quietest, agonizing week ever! A week has passed since Job lost his thriving business and his precious children – all in a single day. After trying to hold himself together, Job finally lets it all out in Chapter 3 cursing the day of his birth. So unbearable was his pain that he expresses that it would have been better to not be born than for him to go through all this.

His closest friends are sitting with him and are trying to comfort him with their limited understanding. Eliphaz is the first friend who speaks up but much of his advice is loaded with the assumption that Job must’ve sinned in some way or he’s carrying some secret sin which is what caused this unbearable suffering. Chapter 5 is a continuation of Eliphaz’s advice. Let’s try and break it down verse by verse.

[1] “Call now; is there anyone who will answer you? To which of the holy ones will you turn?

V1 is a rhetorical question where Eliphaz is telling him “Job, you can call out to God, but don’t expect a response because of your secret sin. It’s pointless for you to pray because you’re already disqualified from approaching God”.

Wow, talk about discouragement right? Job’s already weighed down by his immense suffering, and now he’s having to deal with words of judgment & condemnation from his closest friends. I hope we can see here the danger in jumping to conclusions which can lead to unhelpful, discouraging conversations. That’s the last thing that’s going to help someone who is going through suffering.

[2] Surely vexation kills the fool, and jealousy slays the simple

Eliphaz seems to have already analyzed Job’s heart. He feels that Job is carrying “vexation” or “resentment” and jealousy in his heart. Eliphaz feels that these two sins – resentment (bitterness, irritation) and jealousy (unhealthy desire for what doesn’t belong to you) is what brought all this suffering upon Job. Now are these sins that God hates? Yes, undeniable.

But are these sins which Job secretly carried in his heart? There’s no evidence of that. In fact it’s clear from the first couple of chapters that the suffering which came upon Job wasn’t the result of his sins but a conference which took place in the heavenly courts where God permitted him to be tested. That’s the background which no one was privy to & so Eliphaz went ahead with his own assumption about resentment & jealousy.

And then in V3-5, Eliphaz proceeds to use an illustration (we don’t know if its a real story or just an analogy). He’s using the illustration to demonstrate what happens to a person who harbours secret sins in his heart.

[3]  I have seen the fool taking root, but suddenly I cursed his dwelling. (NIV – but suddenly his house was cursed) – it happened unexpectedly

[4] His children are far from safety; they are crushed in the gate, and there is no one to deliver them.

[5] The hungry eat his harvest, and he takes it even out of thorns, and the thirsty pant after his wealth.

We don’t know the source of this illustration but the end seems quite similar to what happened to Job’s children and his wealth. So Eliphaz isn’t being subtle here. He’s clearly drawing a relationship between the sins that he thinks Job is harbouring in his heart and his suffering in losing all that he ever had.

Again, we don’t know what was Eliphaz’s intention in giving this illustration but it comes across as almost like kicking someone who is already down and injured. 

[6] For affliction does not come from the dust, nor does trouble sprout from the ground,

In other words, Eliphaz says that suffering doesn’t come out of thin air. It has to have a logical cause and the logical cause for suffering is sin according to him. All suffering can only be explained by personal sin. Nothing more and nothing less.

There are times when suffering is a consequence of sin. If we abuse our bodies with substances, it is going to result in serious health problems. But there are other times when suffering isn’t caused by sin. Look at V7.

[7] but man is born to trouble as the sparks fly upward.

In this verse, Eliphaz contradicts what he just said by saying that we are born in suffering. But this contradiction is actually a biblical understanding.

Suffering is something that comes with the package of being born in a broken world. Sometimes what we go through doesn’t have anything to do with our own sin or someone else sinning against us, it’s just part and parcel of us bearing the effects of a fallen world.

To once again go to the example of the blind man in John 9. The disciples of Jesus asked a question that most of us would have thought about – was it this man’s sin or his parent’s sin which is what caused this? Jesus’ answer surprised them because they were expecting a sin answer but Jesus answered “Neither, this happened so that God would be glorified in Him”. So this should tell us that we should have 2 categories as we observe the world around us: a category for sin but also a separate category for suffering.

[8] “As for me, I would seek God, and to God would I commit my cause,

Eliphaz moves onto counselling Job with next steps – what he ought to do. He’s telling him “Job, if I were in your place, this is what I would do. I will seek God – I would earnestly pursue God, I would go after God and to God I would commit my cause – I will totally surrender myself to Him. I will be the most devoted guy ever”.

Now at the outset this seems like good spiritual advice. Is there anything wrong with seeking God or surrendering ourselves to God? No, these are good things – in fact critical things which are commanded in other places of Scripture.

But read with me from V9 to 27 to understand what he’s actually saying. A lot of what Eliphaz will say in the coming verses are things true about God which are also backed by other passages in the Bible but let’s try and understand the big picture of this advice.

[9] who does great things and unsearchable, marvelous things without number: – True, Our God is a God of wonder without any limit.

[10] he gives rain on the earth and sends waters on the fields; – He is the God of providence who looks after His creation.

[11] he sets on high those who are lowly, and those who mourn are lifted to safety. – He exalts and helps those who are humble and in pain. He is close to the brokenhearted.

[12] He frustrates the devices of the crafty, so that their hands achieve no success.

[13] He catches the wise in their own craftiness, and the schemes of the wily are brought to a quick end.

[14] They meet with darkness in the daytime and grope at noonday as in the night.

He is able to see through the wicked intentions of people and pronounces judgment on them.

[15] But he saves the needy from the sword of their mouth and from the hand of the mighty.

[16] So the poor have hope, and injustice shuts her mouth.

God delivers the needy, hopeless and helpless. God takes pride and special interest in those who have no protection.

[17] “Behold, blessed is the one whom God reproves; therefore despise not the discipline of the Almighty.

Hebrews 12 says a similar thing – that when God allows us to go through suffering, He’s actually disciplining us as His children – He’s doing it out of love so that we can grow in holiness. Again, this is something true of God.

And then he goes on to describe the blessing which will follow a devoted life

[18] For he wounds, but he binds up; he shatters, but his hands heal.

[19] He will deliver you from six troubles; in seven no evil shall touch you.

[20]  In famine he will redeem you from death, and in war from the power of the sword.

[21] You shall be hidden from the lash of the tongue, and shall not fear destruction when it comes.

[22] At destruction and famine you shall laugh, and shall not fear the beasts of the earth.

[23] For you shall be in league with the stones of the field, and the beasts of the field shall be at peace with you.

[24] You shall know that your tent is at peace, and you shall inspect your fold and miss nothing.

[25] You shall know also that your offspring shall be many, and your descendants as the grass of the earth.

[26] You shall come to your grave in ripe old age, like a sheaf gathered up in its season.

[27] Behold, this we have searched out; it is true. Hear, and know it for your good.” –

So Eliphaz is confident on his theory and practice and now he’s highly recommending this for Job. This is what is going to fix his suffering. This is what is going to reverse his situation.

But what was the underlying message behind his advice? Because he assumed that suffering was caused by our sin & disloyalty to God, his fix was a greater degree of loyalty & devotion to God. Because God’s mad at me because of my sin, I need to do something to get back in his good books.

I need to demonstrate how passionate & committed I am toward Him so that He can start showing His favor to me. What’s this after all? Works based salvation. Performance based relationship. It’s stemming from the idea that God is transactional – He deals with me in the same way I deal with Him.

This couldn’t be further from the truth. Two verses that always served as a reminder to my heart telling me how unconditional God’s relationship is with me.

In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. (1 John 4:10)

God didn’t wait for us to love Him first – as a precondition to loving us back. It wasn’t a love that was dependent on how much we loved God. It wasn’t transactional.

It wasn’t “matlabi” love which says I will love you only as long as you treat me and love me as I expect you to.

No, it’s a love where God took the initiative to love us way before we even realized our need for it.

How did he show us this love? While we still sinners, Jesus died for us.

But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)

Even before we thought of making our first move to turn back to God, Jesus died for us. Which means that our status was still a “sinner” and an “enemy” of God at the time.

I remember right after 26/11 and when we got to know that the name of one of the terrorists was Ajmal Kasab, he became the object of anger and hatred of the entire nation because he was an enemy after all that he had done. And now imagine that to be the status and name that’s associated with us because of our rebellion toward God. That’s us!

And yet Scripture tells us that while we were still sinners and enemies, Jesus died for us. In other words, Jesus took the punishment that sinners and enemies of God deserved and He paid the price on our behalf so that we could be set free.

He rose again on the Third Day so that we would never again be referred to as enemies by God’s own children. Is God transactional and conditional? No, that’s not who He is. And so how do we comfort someone who is suffering who is searching for answers? 

1. By recognizing that every suffering cannot be always explained by a sin cause.
2. By recognizing that the resolution to suffering cannot be achieved by increased loyalty and devotion to God. Suffering isn’t a direct indication of God’s anger toward us; neither is blessing & prosperity a direct indication of God’s delight in us.
3. However, suffering can be explained by God’s divine purpose. Even though the details (how and the why of God’s ways) might not fully be clear, we can look at the cross and be assured that God won’t deal with us out of spite or cruelty. He always treats us better than we deserve.